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feh and fooey!
09.27.05 (12:24 pm)   [edit]
I've had it up to HERE with tBlog. I'm going to try out a new home. Feel free to contact me directly to find me!

["Knock Me A Kiss," Louis Jordan]
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helpless desk
09.19.05 (6:40 am)   [edit]
I'm currently holding for "one minutes please" with a Dell Chat rep, who is completely flummoxed by my issue (Can't access the contacts on my pocket PC unless from within the e-mail program). I'm guessing I simply have to bite the bullet and ask DH to reinstall my operating system and Office for PPC, but thought I'd check in and see if Dell had any hints for me.

Renuka has spent a good 10 minutes of my time trying to get me to the file menu on ActiveSync. She just said "open file" in ActiveSync.... this is insane. Is it rude if I hang up on a chat rep?

["If I Could Go," Angie Martinez]
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strange but true
09.15.05 (12:48 pm)   [edit]
Okay, I hate most reality TV, but I'm now sucked in.

"In March, TV Land will launch Living in TV Land, a series based on a 2004 special that chronicled a day at the racetrack with Eight Is Enough pop Dick Van Patten. The roster of "day in the life of" stars includes The Brady Bunch's Barry Williams pitching at Dodger Stadium and Batman's Adam West fly-fishing in Idaho. Additional play dates are being planned for Sherman Helmsley (The Jeffersons), William Shatner (Star Trek), Davy Jones (The Monkeys), Fred Willard and classic TV moms for a special Mother's Day installment. Sal Maniaci, TV Land's vice president of development and production, also is developing Back to Work with ..., in which casts of ensemble shows find employment at real-life versions of the workplaces where their old shows were set. One scenario in the works: The Love Boat cast goes back to work on a real cruise ship. TV Land is also in discussions for a second season of Chasing Farrah, with Farrah Fawcett."

["Runaway," The Corrs]
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what's an asshole?
09.15.05 (8:18 am)   [edit]

Parents, and even non-parents, go here now. I'm still laughing.

[Edit: Sorry, the trackback link was screwy or I did it wrong. Try now.]

["Isn't She Lovely," Stevie Wonder]

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from my outbox
09.15.05 (8:09 am)   [edit]

To: The Board of Directors, School District 65

Dear Members of the Board,

As of today, we are well into our third week of school, and the families of [Unnamed School] continue to struggle with transportation issues. My husband and I specifically chose to move to Evanston this summer in order to send our son, Jacob, to one of its exemplary schools. However, his adjustment into the educational system is impacted severely by the concern of how he will get to and from school each day.

We live near [Street] and [Street], where up to 16 elementary students from [School] expect to take Bus #2 to and from school each day. In discussions with my neighbors, I have heard that the first several days of school are always somewhat disorganized while the transportation routes are finalized. By now, I would have expected that I would only rarely receive frantic calls from our nanny, telling me that Jacob's bus never showed up this morning, or that it's 45 minutes after his expected drop-off time and nobody knows where their kids are.

I work in Northbrook and my husband works in Chicago. We own a single car. Our family's livelihood depends on our ability to be at work a certain number of hours a day, and while managers are relatively sympathetic to occasional disturbances in our schedules, we are absolutely unable to be at home to carry our son back and forth to school every day.

From the first day of the school year, the principal and staff at [School] have been terrific about assuring families, keeping an eye out for our children to ensure they make it to class and onto homebound transportation, and calmly taking tons of (I'm sure) upsetting phone calls from angry parents. I'd like to make sure that you understand I'm not placing blame on a single entity, and I have nothing but respect and gratitude for Principal [Name] and the very dedicated staff at [School].

However, there is very little Mr. [Principal] can do if his students are not shuttled to and from school in a safe manner. I cannot imagine that it's easy to establish a classroom routine when children are trickling in as much as a half hour late each day. Even [District Transportation Manager] appears to be at a loss -- how many times can he call Alltown and complain, if the bare fact remains that they seem unable to keep a driver on the route? While [DTM] was very kind to return my call yesterday and let me know he insisted the Alltown manager drive Bus #2, he also mentioned that some children "took it upon themselves" to walk home from school. Trust me when I say that if I hear my five-year-old son attempts to cross Ridge Road and walk a mile home from school because he saw the bigger kids doing it, I will be shocked, appalled, and terrified to entrust my child to the Evanston school system from that day forward.

I beg you, please make safe transportation for our children your highest priority right now, and let the parent community know what we can do to support this issue. I will do whatever is in my power to support the school but the safety of my child is absolutely my most important priority right now. Once our children's transportation is established, the school can continue its grand tradition of providing excellent education for our community's future leaders.

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thought for today
09.14.05 (8:00 am)   [edit]
I had a really, really stressful, bad Mom night last night. I don't even want to detail it because my troubles are so petty compared to what's going on in the rest of the world. 

So now I'm drowning myself in music while I work and it helps a lot. One thought I had was that I wish there was Jewish gospel music. Gospel music is so incredibly strong and moving and heartfelt; it's just that I'm not supposed to sing about Jesus and so many songs are for him.

Too bad I'm not a songwriter. I could make a killing.

["O Happy Day," Sister Act 2 -- don't laugh; Lauryn Hill was amazing and Ryan Toby is one of the most sought-after songwriters in music now]
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it's about time
09.12.05 (11:37 am)   [edit]
Embattled FEMA Director Mike Brown Resigns

"Federal Emergency Management Agency director Mike Brown said Monday he has resigned 'in the best interest of the agency and best interest of the president,' three days after losing his onsite command of the Hurricane Katrina relief effort."

Don't feel bad for Brownie; I'm sure all of Shrub's cronies land on their feet with lucrative private-sector deals.

In other Washington news, Supreme Court Chief Justice robot nominee John Roberts is being coached by Republicans to refuse to answer sensitive questions. G-d bless my own state's Senator Dick Durbin, who said "Only your responses to our questions can convince us that the John Roberts of 2005 will be a truly impartial, open-minded chief justice."

What makes me nervous:

"The White House has released more than 70,000 documents from Roberts' time in the Reagan administration but has refused to release documents from his tenure as principal deputy solicitor general in the first Bush administration.

"Seventeen Democratic senators, including potential presidential candidates Hillary Rodham Clinton of New York and John Kerry of Massachusetts, reiterated the party's call for the Bush administration to release those documents.

"'The people deserve to know the complete truth about Judge Roberts, the good and the bad alike,' they said in a letter to the White House."  [Emphasis mine]

Keep fighting the good fight, Dems!

["Stuck In A Moment," U2]
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best headline ever
09.07.05 (11:30 am)   [edit]

"Bush: 'It Has Been Brought To My Attention That There Was Recently A Bad Storm.'"


["Overture," Spamalot]

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my new t-shirt
09.07.05 (10:26 am)   [edit]
I applied for a cool job today, and got back a response from the hiring manager pretty quickly. She said that she's in the stages of final interviews for the position, needs someone with extensive writing experience, and will review my resume.

I took that to mean "thanks anyway, your dad is a nice guy and I appreciate his referral of you, but I've pretty much decided on someone anyway."

I IM'd DH to let him know and that I wasn't too disappointed because I hadn't gotten my hopes up.

"That's it," he replied. "Keep reaching for the ground."

<snort> I'm having a t-shirt made. I love that.

["Things You Call Fate," Sondre Lerche]
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random meme
09.07.05 (4:20 am)   [edit]
Yoinked from Almsiemunchkin's secret lair:

1. HOW DID YOU GET ONE OF YOUR SCARS?
I have one scar on my left elbow from jogging with my dog when I was 14. He took off after a squirrel, and my elbow was history. A scar on my leg was the result of a fight with my brother (totally unfair -- he had car keys in his hand).

2. WHAT IS ON THE WALLS OF YOUR ROOM?
Nothing but dust and occasional bugs. I refuse to hang pictures in this apartment, because that would indicate I'm settling there. We're getting out as soon as we can find something better (and afford it, oh yeah)

3. WHAT DOES YOUR CELL PHONE LOOK LIKE?
A cell phone. It's silver, and has a little screen and buttons on it.

4. WHAT MUSIC DO YOU LIKE TO LISTEN TO?
Almost everything. Rock, pop, classical, hip-hop, some rap, salsa, world music. Some country and folk.

5. DO YOU KNOW WHAT TIME YOU WERE BORN?
7:24 p.m.

6. WHAT DO YOU WANT MORE THAN ANYTHING RIGHT NOW?
A great night's sleep.

7. WHAT DO YOU MISS AT TIMES?
Freedom of my own time. Doing work that excites me. Having good friends at work. Wearing a 36C.

8. WHAT IS YOUR MOST PRIZED POSSESSION?
If kids don't count.... my wedding rings, my grandmother's music boxes, and my family photos.

9. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SMELL?
My husband's aftershave. My kids' heads after bathing them with Johnson's Baby Shampoo. Garlicky foods cooking.

10. DO YOU GET CLAUSTROPHOBIC?
Yes, horribly. I don't think I did when I was a kid -- I grew into it. Now, I don't even like having my head under the covers.

11. IF YOU DIED TOMORROW:
I can't even contemplate that question. It's too upsetting to think of leaving my children motherless.

12. THE LAST PERSON TO MAKE YOU CRY?
I teared up when Jacob talked to his cat last week. Before that? DH, mostly because of my own silly hormones.

13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE COLOGNE / PERFUME?
Lately, I've been wearing Clinique's "Happy." Before that, I wore "Tuscany Per Donna" by Estee Lauder. On DH, I like the silliest thing -- Gillette's Wild Rain for Men. He got it as antipersperant once and it smells awesome -- clean and manly. He's worn it ever since. I generally don't go for the heavy-cologned type of guy. Just nice and clean is good; I only want to get close enough to smell a scent on my own man.

14. WHAT KIND OF HAIR DO YOU LIKE ON THE OPPOSITE SEX?
Clean and well-kempt. I tend to go for the clean-cut kind of guy most of the time. I don't really care if it's thinning or whatever, though DH has great hair.

15. WHERE CAN YOU SEE YOURSELF BEING PROPOSED TO?
Does that really matter when you love someone? My first proposal was in a car. My second was in a hotel room but it was dark, with just candlelight, and I was blindfolded until the exact second he asked. My third, and the one I went through with, was not all planned out, but the most romantic moment I'd had up to that point. We were in his apartment, sitting on his futon, and I was upset about something. He knelt in front of me, and said "I don't think there's a time more important for you to know that I love you and want to spend my life with you." He hadn't meant to do it that way; I know he wanted to do something big and sweeping, but this was perfect.

16. DO YOU LIKE PORN?
Real porn makes me uncomfortable, possibly because of my history. I don't get bent out of shape about it unless it's the really creepy kind of stuff. Personally, I prefer erotic fiction to film.

19. WHO IS THE LAST PERSON YOU MADE MAD?
Probably DH. I'm sure I annoy him all the time. If not him, probably Jacob. He says I have too many rules.

20. DO YOU SPEAK A DIFFERENT LANGUAGE?
I like Sheryl's answer: "I speak toddler." I also speak a bit of Spanish. 

21. WHAT WAS THE FIRST GIFT SOMEONE EVER GAVE YOU (OF THE OPPOSITE SEX)?
Nobody's ever given me the opposite sex. I've had sex.... unless my dad somehow finds and reads this. In that case, I'm just joking, and my kids are all virgin births.

28. WOULD YOU FALL IN LOVE KNOWING THAT THE PERSON IS LEAVING?
How could you stop yourself from falling in love, even if it doesn't seem possible to be with that person? I fell in love long distance once, and I've been married to the man for almost 10 years now. If a neurotic Reform girl from Chicago can meet a former Lubavitch guy from Philly and end up having three kids with him, I think anything can happen.

29. WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO TELL SOMEONE HOW MUCH THEY MEAN TO YOU?
[Singing] "Tell him, that, you're never gonna leave him/Tell him, that, you're always gonna love him/ Tell him, Tell him, Tell him/ Tell him right now"
Also, what Sheryl said -- little things that show you're thinking of them.

30. SAY A NUMBER FROM ONE TO A HUNDRED:
"Eighteen."

31. BLONDES, REDHEADS OR BRUNETTES?
You mean, what do I prefer? I like guys with dark hair, usually brown. That doesn't mean I would have kicked Brad Pitt out of bed a few years ago. Now, he just grosses me out.

32. WHAT IS THE ONE NUMBER YOU CALL OFTEN?
DH's cell phone.

33. WHAT ANNOYS YOU MOST?
Insensitivity.

34. HAVE YOU EVER DONE A PRANK CALL?
Hey, I was 12 once.

39: WHAT WERE YOU DOING BEFORE YOU FILLED OUT THIS SURVEY?
Looking up transactions.

40. IF YOU COULD GET PLASTIC SURGERY, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
Tummy tuck and breast lift. I was never perky.

41. WHY DID YOU FILL OUT THIS SURVEY?
Procrastinating doing my real work. Shhhh!

42. WHAT DO YOU LIKE ON YOUR PIZZA?
Tomato sauce and cheese. I'm incredibly boring and childish. Frankly, you really can't go wrong with the combination of a breadlike product, tomato sauce and cheese.

43. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF ALCOHOL BECAME ILLEGAL?
Spend less money when I go to the occasional Cubs game.

44. WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY?
Disposable income so I can get a house, a car, and give more money to charity.

45. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF IT SUDDENLY STARTED RAINING BLOOD?
Run like hell!!!!
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a good sign
09.06.05 (4:58 pm)   [edit]

As the days wear on, Jacob seems to adjust more and more to school. Today, he eagerly described Art and Gym activities to me, and let me know he stayed "on green" all day. (The teacher has instituted a stoplight form of positive reinforcement -- every kid starts the day on green, and they move to yellow for slightly naughty behaviors, and red for serious stuff like biting or hitting.)

My favorite sign that things were improving for him occurred on Friday after I came home from work. Jake has developed a strong relationship with our fat cat SCSI (Scuzzy), seen here dwarfing GUI several years ago:





Anyway, Jake bent down to pet Scuzzy on Friday afternoon and spoke to him softly.

"Hi Scuzzy, can I pet you? You're so soft! Are you happy, Scuzzy? I had a good day at school today..."

*sniff sniff*

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bleeding heart liberals can help too
09.06.05 (1:40 pm)   [edit]

Liberal Blogosphere for Hurricane Relief



(Add to your site)

Hurricane Katrina destroyed thousands of lives.

Together, the liberal blogosphere is raising money for the Red Cross fund for food, water, shelter, and transportation out of the Hurricane Zone.

Please donate now.

 

If you're still not fired up, please read Flea's amazing entry on Books Are Pretty. I'm donating through my company, which is matching employee donations 1:1 and also providing in-kind donations of merchandise. Few people I know have tons of disposable income, but we're all hoping to do what we can to help out. I was extremely encouraged by a post I read on Craigslist yesterday -- a woman asking to whom she could send clothing and household goods to donate.

Let's show the people of America that we can support each other,
despite differences in politics, race, and opinion.

Love,
JT
(despite all my bitching and moaning, I'm still grateful for what I have)
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monday/tuesday
09.06.05 (5:50 am)   [edit]
Doesn't it kind of suck getting back to the grind after Labor Day? I'm glad that we got to do some nice, summery things this weekend, even if DH and I were both really freakin' tired. I'm still having bloody, awful, raving nightmares when I do sleep, and then I'm afraid to go back to sleep when they finally wake me at 3 am or so. At that point, I notice that DH is still awake, watching TV with headphones on, and tell him he should go to sleep. Between the two of us, we're maybe getting six good hours a night. Definitely not enough.

We did head back to Kid Heaven, AKA the Skokie Water Playground, yesterday with our friends who have these two unbelieveably cute little girls. The teeny one, Ashley, is like a sweet, cuddly puppy. This was their first visit, so the girls were a little more nervous than our boys, who headed for the zero-depth pool as though their feet were on fire.

We got a few playground trips and several errands done this weekend, too -- I even took both boys to Northbrook Court (AKA NorthShoreNightmareMall) so I could pick up a baby gift at The Land of Nod. I managed to get through six hours alone with both boys without yelling. (Not without Zoloft, but every girl needs her crutch.)

I came to work at 7:00 today, since my gestational diabetes test is at 11:30 and therefore will require me to be absent from my chains desk for more than 15 minutes. When my boss arrived, she promptly sent me an e-mail admonishing me for only working 38 hours last week. I replied, letting her know I'd work overtime this week... before remembering that the office closed at 3:00 on Friday and therefore I normally wouldn't have done 40 hours anyway. And, oh yeah, I came in at 6:45 on Friday morning just to help make up some of the time lost from my car breaking down the previous day.

"There isn't enough Zoloft on the planet for me," I wrote to DH.

["Shed A Little Light," James Taylor]
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little shits
09.02.05 (4:25 am)   [edit]
Well, it happened. Jake finally found out that people suck.

The school had a "welcome" picnic last night, held on the lawn at 6. Families were to bring their own dinners and blankets, and the PTA provided desserts. I picked up the boys and a bucket of KFC, and we headed over there. DH hopped a train and walked from the train, and got there maybe a half hour after we did.

When I arrived with the boys, it was pretty early. A fifth-grade boy arrived with his dad, tossing a Nerf football. Jacob immediately asked if he could meet the bigger kid (Sam) and play.

However, when more kids arrived, Sam's friends did too. Jacob asked the boys if he could play catch with them, and I guess they told him to wait, that they would get him. At one point, I was standing beneath the slides, making sure Danny didn't get trampled by the bigger kids playing tag around him, and I noticed that Jake was sitting by himself on the curb of the playground.

"Jake, what are you doing?" I called.

"Waiting my turn to play," he said.

I had a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach even before he came to me and burst into tears. The bigger kids had snuck off, leaving him sitting there alone. Jacob regressed into the most pathetic version of himself, crying as though his heart was breaking, which I guess it kind of was. He just kept bleating "Mommy! Mommy!" I sat with him on a bench and attempted to console him.

It was awful. People were looking at us with that mixture of relief and revulsion. My kid's innocent soul was destroyed. And I was resigned -- not even angry -- because I knew this could be just the tip of the iceberg.

"Sometimes bigger kids don't want to play with younger kids."
"They probably don't even know that they're being mean. It doesn't make it right, but we can't change it."
"We'll find kids in your class to play with."
"Why would you want to play with kids who don't want to play with you?"
"How about we get dessert and wait for Daddy?"
"When you're a fifth-grader, you'll remember what this felt like and be nicer to little kids."
"They're not worth your energy."
"They don't know you and what a cool kid you are; this isn't personal."

I said all of this and more, but Jacob was undeterred. I dragged both boys to pick up a couple of cookies and fell onto our blanket with them draped all over me, praying that DH would get there soon. When he arrived, Jacob collapsed on him and cried again. To his credit, he got mad pretty fast after that and wanted revenge. He wanted to do all the Dudley-Do-Right stuff; tell the bigger kids they were mean, insist they apologize, etc. In turns, he would suggest that perhaps he didn't hear them call his name, or he didn't understand they were coming back for him and maybe he should go after them.

We think Jacob was milking it a bit, but OH MY GAWD was he hurt and angry and sad. He's such a friendly kid that he generally has no problem finding others to play with; in fact, before we left, he was in a pack of boys from his class, racing down the slides in bunches (and letting baby brother Danny tag along). DH asked Jacob questions about those boys from his class on the way home, but Jake returned to pick at his wound a bit more.

How do you tell a five-year-old that sometimes, people just suck? What a shitty lesson to learn in a week where he's already having trouble. My poor kid.
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thank goodness...
09.01.05 (12:30 pm)   [edit]
.... for the wacky folks at Random Fandom (otherwise known as Mike Keneally fans). They helped me find the Midnight Ukelele Disco.

You don't want to hear me bitching or explaining why I e-mailed Orange yesterday to remind her that she's my drinking surrogate while I'm pregnant. Suffice it to say that my superior stood next to me and performed a 20-minute rant on people taking sick time and what a waste of a company's money it is, and the fact that everyone lies about why they're taking sick time. My superior thinks that people should be rewarded for not missing any days of work.... with free days off.

Y'all remember that's the big reason I didn't get a raise this year, right? Right.

Anyway, I downed an O'Doul's at the bowling alley last night, when my company had a free bowling night. We had a blast, even if I sucked so badly that Danny could have beaten me. Apparently this new kid in my belly is really throwing off my normally adequate game. Maybe he prefers tennis.

I stopped at Jewel on my way home to pick up more Lunchables for Jake (Hot Dog version ONLY, or his wrath will smite me). DH called while I was there to let me know he's worried about Jakey not acclimating to school. He's concerned that something's turning our normally thrilled-with-learning kid against school. Apparently, Jake wasn't even happy about having time to draw at school, and you should see the notebooks FILLED with drawings we have at home. I tried to assure DH that this was an adjustment period and that the kid is probably just really tired.

Less than two miles from home, my "Check Battery" light came on. I promptly shut off the AC and radio, and peeked in the manual at a red light. (It says "Stop and Check." Thanks, Toyota!) By the time I got near home, my steering had given out. I put all of my (considerable) weight behind the wheel and docked at the curb. The car didn't so much shut off as wheeze to sleep.

I was so excited to call in to my boss, and then drag outside this morning, praying the poor car would wake up enough to get the three blocks to a service station (it did, with me cooing at it the whole way). I couldn't steer it into a parking space, so I just sort of left it at an awkward angle near the garage bays.

For the fourth morning in a row, 16 kids and assorted parental types hung out on my corner, wondering if the bus would show up. We've given up for the past three days and driven our kids to school, but today, we staged a nonviolent resistance movement, refusing to do anything but call the principal's office and wait for a bus to show up. When it did, coming down the wrong street at 9:05, the driver admitted he was yet another sub.

"Did you know you're supposed to drive northbound on Judson here?" I asked.

"Judson? Isn't this Forest?" he said.

[Oh, my G-d.]

"You are going to Dewey Elementary, right? Do you know where it is?"

"Um.... Dewey, right. Where is it?"

I hopped off the bus and turned to the remaining parents. We huddled, and all the moms piled onto the bus, ensuring that the bigger kids knew how to get to school, and that once there, they'd all troop into the office together for late passes.

In the meantime, a second bus pulled up. The driver said he was sent to pick up the kids who hadn't been picked up yet. He had Dewey's address and a map somewhere, and thought he could find it.

When the two buses pulled slowly away, we grownups turned to one another. "And they were never seen again," said one dad, dramatically.

"Jacob! If you don't come back, I'll name the baby after you!" I shouted into the exhaust. Two SAHM's said they'd do their morning run to the school to see when the kids got there (if at all). I promised the other parents that I knew Jake had a great sense of direction, and worst case scenario, he'd lead them all back to our place. If the kids weren't heard from by 5 pm, the parents should ring our buzzer.

The car repair included a new battery and an alternator belt ("When I opened the hood," the mechanic told me, "it just wasn't there. Must have burned out and fallen off on the road somewhere. That's why your battery went." Ooops.) However, the guys at the Shell were super nice and gave me a break on the labor, and didn't charge anything to have the right parts messengered from their central distribution center. So $175 and four hours later, I had my car again.

While I was home, I got in some snuggle time with Danny and showed him how to Aquadoodle, courtesy of Grandma's birthday gift. Then Alberta took advantage of the quiet time with me to let me know that Jacob has been an unholy terror since we moved. Whenever she scolds him or says "no," she said, he throws horrible tantrums; screaming, hitting, and slamming doors.

I was horrified. She said she hadn't wanted to burden me because she knew I've been sick with the pregnancy and working such long hours. To me, that's a lousy excuse -- I think she was, frankly, afraid. She knows another nanny who was fired because the mom didn't believe what she said about her kid. I believe it, though I don't want to. The thing that pisses me off (and DH too, now that I've told him), is that he's only really doing this with Alberta. That means two things to me: (1), he's more comfortable with her than any of us, so he can be at his worst; and (2), she's spoiling him, so he knows he can get away with all kinds of shit. 

DH and I IM'd each other once I got to work, bolstering each other. I just wish my kid weren't so damned angry, but he comes by all this emotion honestly. The shrinky part of me wonders if this isn't all a bad reaction to moving, which seemed to really rock the kids' worlds. He's trying to assert control in a world where he has little.

I don't know how Alberta can discipline him -- he's not her kid. But I told her that she's not to take any shit from him. She has absolute authority to punish him (time-outs, no toys, etc) when we're not home, and we'll back her up. The TV can't be on all the time; the kids can listen to music more and zone out less. If she threatens him with calling us, she should do it.

DH wondered if it wasn't time to change childcare, but I'm really attached to Alberta. I know that she kind of spoils the boys, but she honestly loves them and cares for them as if they were her own kids. I can trust her with them, and that speaks an awful lot for a working mom. I wondered privately if this wasn't somehow my fault for being a working mom and not being home enough; then, when I am home, not having the energy to really do things with the kids. But we don't have much of a choice. And if I did have the funds to stay home, what kind of mom would I be? We're not the kind of wealthy folk who could buy a big house and put our kids in a myriad of enrichment classes. I can't see myself as one of those adorably fit, tanned, hip Evanston moms whose husbands own franchises and trade whatever it is people trade at the BOT.

I'm not really sure what to do. Fixing the car is so much easier than fixing my kid, or our lives. At least DH and I have each other, is all I keep thinking. And I keep praying that my kid will be okay.
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