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| i'm a selfish bitch |
| 11.11.05 (6:15 pm) [edit] |
Gapers Block is having a commentfest on "Kids: Yay or Nay?" I got my back up:11.10.05, 11:24 PM — =http://jt.tblog.com href="http://www.gapersblock.com/mt/mt-comments.cgi?__mode=red;id=19846" target=_blankJT said: Kevin, thank you so much for this: "With so many kids waiting for adoption, what kind of egomaniac brings more into the world?" "Umm..because maybe 5% of the adult population is qualified to adopt?" Yep, that's exactly it. I was a long shot to conceive my own kids, but no adoption agency on the planet would have allowed me to adopt and I was blessed enough to get pregnant four times and to have (so far) two amazing kids. I'm on bedrest at 34 weeks pregnant with what will hopefully be my third son (and, due to financial and health concerns, our last child). I have had several careers, had money and lost it, lived in different cities and types of homes, and have never experienced the kind of joyful adoration of anything as I adore my sons. They delight me and refresh my brain every single day. I didn't have children to ensure some silly idea of immortality, to take care of me in my dotage, or because anyone told me to. I had children because I always knew I wanted to be a parent. I've never had a more important job or mission than to encourage, teach, and love these small people. Is it hard? Expensive? Heartbreaking? Frustrating? Exhausting? Hell yes. All of that and more. But worth every single tear, labor pain, uncertainty and tantrum. I don't begrudge or judge anyone who decides they don't wish to have kids; in fact, I thank them because no child should be raised by someone who really isn't up for the whole ride. Better to be childless and happy about it than a parent by obligation only. In turn, please don't judge people you don't know who "selfishly" conceive their own kids. Don't assume all kids are poorly behaved, spoiled brats -- even the greatest, most polite children on the planet have crappy days, and so do their parents. But the bottom line is, many of us are working hard to support and raise people with good hearts, strong minds, and peaceful souls. I wish everyone -- with child or childfree -- gets to feel the kind of joy I do when my husband and I watch our kids play beautifully together. |
posted by: LadyG (reply)
post date: 11.11.05 (6:46 pm)
Beautifully said, I agree with you i00%. I was so happy to finally get my two because fo so long I did't think I was ever going to get pregnant.
posted by: Orange (reply)
post date: 11.15.05 (11:16 am)
Plus, people as fabulous as us? We almost have a moral obligation to breed and pass down our genes!
posted by: JT (reply)
post date: 11.15.05 (12:29 pm)
Reply to: Orange
Damn straight, baby. Thank goodness you poured all the amazing powers you have into Ben.... that kid has magic powers, I'm sure of it.
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