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| ask the bandster |
| 03.16.06 (8:48 am) [edit] |
Now, a new feature at My Blog Too: Ask the Bandster!Dear Bandster: "I had my surgery 6 Months ago and was doing fine till my fill went away i can really eat anyhting I want but I am afraid of not being able to eat what i want. I have been contemplating getting a fill because I have totally stopped losing but I love being able to eat more. How do I get the courage to make an appointment." Dear Un[ful]filled: You have hit on a really important factor that I think everyone understands. Despite what some of society thinks, weight loss surgery is not a quick or easy fix. It's still a huge life change. Those of us who have used food for anything other than nutrition all go through at least one period of "mourning" our old lifestyle. The bottom line is, how badly do you want the results of the change? That's what has to carry us through those harder times. The fact of the matter is, we have to let the band do what it's supposed to do, until we don't feel the need for as much of what makes us heavier. Do all big people eat like pigs? Heck, no. I actually eat really well, but my body just hangs onto every little fat gram and calorie. Did I mourn things like bread when I got the band? You'd better believe it. But while it's easy to miss just being able to eat a damned sandwich (I can't do bread on the band), I'm much happier with the changes I see in my body as I lose weight. The other thing I found is that, while I missed certain foods, the cravings I had completely changed. Instead of missing as many fatty foods, I crave *more* flavor in my food. Since I can't eat as much, I want anything I eat to really pack a punch. That sort of thing may help you as you deal with this fill issue; try to find foods that you find satisfying if you only get a little bit. Try to find substitutions for the foods you really miss. For example, I can't generally eat any bread, but I really like the 7-grain Wasa Crispbreads. I can't do a big serving of pasta, but I can have a little with more sauce. Sugar-free chocolate Velamints are great when I just need a little taste; same with those little Dove Promises for real chocolate. I drink Crystal Light pretty much all day long! I hope this helps you - at least, know you're not alone in dealing with this. Validate how you feel about missing foods, and then try to move forward. Best of luck to you, JT, Bandster |
posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (5:25 am)
Just an aside: I tried to load, and reload your blog with a dial-up connection, and it was literally taking forever. This might be a challenge to those with only a dial-up access.
We have a lady associated with our church who has battled obesity all her life. She has an absolutely beautiful singing voice, and a delightful personality and outlook upon life. I told her, when she was considering this procedure, that she was already beautiful. That anyone who would require that her appearance change in order to treat her with love and respect would not be worth such a sacrifice. She thought about it for months, and then went through with the procedure. It was a radical undertaking. Now, she has lost over 100 pounds, looks great, and has a boyfriend. She is excited about all the new possibilities in her life.
So, what do I know?
posted by: JT (reply)
post date: 03.16.06 (7:07 am)
Reply to: PastorDave
I think it's almost impossible for someone to understand the impact of obesity unless they experience it themselves. For me, weight became an issue as I got older, though my habits didn't much change. I come from a pretty nutritionally-aware background, and was a dancer as a kid and teen, so it's really weird for me to be heavy. And it's basically impossible for me to lose weight.
I don't actually condone all weight-loss surgery... I had the lap-band done, which is less dangerous and invasive than the other typical procedures. It's adjustable forever, and removable if necessary.
There are so many issues that are attached to weight that you can't imagine; I'm still discovering them as I lose. It's very hard to value yourself when society devalues you for your appearance. I'm not losing weight to fit in; I'm losing weight because I want to be a vital, healthy, active woman who's around to enjoy her kids and grandkids (and maybe, G-d willing, great-grandkids!). Know what I mean?
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