BobbyJoe and I had some fun scaring all the kids on Blurt today. His blog got me to thinking about domination, sexually speaking.

Okay, people who know me in real life? Please stop reading now. Thanks.

DH likes when I attack him. He loves to be seduced. And, while I'm terribly good at it, there are certain aggressive tendencies many girls like their guys to display. I tease BJ about talking dirty ("call me a slut!"), but don't know if in real life I'd go for domination, being an assault survivor and all.

See, while I'd like to think I have an open mind, the older I get the more boring I am. There's also that little issue of not wanting to lose control over a situation, even though I know DH would never do to me what Fuckface in college did. So while anal sex is ABSOLUTELY out of the fucking question (literally), I think I should be a little more open to other suggestions.

And what do relationship experts tell you to do with your partner? Communicate. Be open-minded. Share your fantasies. But that's the problem -- DH is not comfortable doing that. He will share fond memories of our early-relationship naughtiness (remember that time at the truck stop? the alley by the taqueria?), but won't tell me if there's something new he wants to try. He would be open to my suggestions, I suppose, but now I'm so old and boring I can't think of anything. And I'm not sure he'd feel comfortable if I told him to try spanking me or telling me I'm a filthydirtywhore.

Of course, the question also rises that, should I decide to give DH the reins, what happens if I change my mind and freak out?

I'm not sure where this is going. But I'd love to hear your fantasies, if you're comfortable sharing. You can tMail if you don't want to comment, or comment anonymously. I know you want to hear mine. I already gave you the Pirates one. I'll work on getting up the nerve to post something new.